One of those infertile days . .

I decided it was a good idea to get the ball rolling for our 3rd round of IVF. We haven't decided when to start yet or anything, we just want to know what to expect the 3rd time around. Because of the 2 previous failed attempts they are changing up the protocol on which drugs, meds, and vitamins I should be on etc. I haven't been on here for a while, and I thought I would just check in.

We have had an amazing Summer. The "Summer of Fun" as I have been calling it. And I am happy to report it has been just that. I have travelled for fun, travelled to volunteer, shopping trips, road trips, fun at the lake house, went to concerts, worked on my golf game as well as my tan at our beach club, started a new career that I am in love with, and got to see my best friend since childhood get married. We have had a blast.

I don't have too much to update you on in regards to our fertility situation, or the lack thereof. The one thing that my doctor recommended after my last miscarriage was an RPL panel. (Repeat Pregnancy Loss Panel) An RPL Panel is basically a panel of blood tests that check into my genetic makeup even more. DH already had these tests done back when he got his results back with such astonishing low counts, etc. Well when they did these tests on me, they found that I have a genetic blood disorder which they call a Factor 5 Mutation. Long story short, this is a blood clotting issue. The other issue they found is called M.T.F.R. (initials for a long word I can't even say, never mind spell it out) - but basically this causes my enzymes to not synthesize correctly. These two issues combined leave me at high risk for death in delivery. Luckily, they found this! Now they will ensure that they can do everything they can to make sure these issues do not affect my pregnancy or my health during delivery. Anywho, I am finding out what vitamins and meds I should start taking just to get my body fully prepared for this next cycle and to hopefully assist my body in being able to carry full term.

We are excited, hopeful, anxious, and relaxed all at the same time. Excited and hopeful because 3rd time could be the charm =). Anxious, because it is all such an unknown, and relaxed because everything happens for a reason, when it's time to start this next cycle . . we'll know. After our last miscarriage we said things like, "everything happens for a reason," or "this clearly wasn't God's timing for us," and lastly, "the right thing at the wrong time is still wrong." And yes, we both believe all of those things, but mostly we were saying these "cliché" sayings to make ourselves feel better about the sad situation we were dealing with. Well, wouldn't ya know, if I had went full term with this last pregnancy, we would not have known about these blood issues, and who knows if I would have made it. So we are very thankful that our doctors found out what they did and performed the appropriate tests to hopefully avoid any disasters.

The true reason I posted today . . I needed to. I had to get some of these things on paper and off my chest. I am having such an off day, and sometimes I just need to vent. It's tough to call people and vent about this (other than my DH) - nobody really knows what to say. People who haven't been through this before don't understand always. I have some really great family members who genuinely care and love to hear about all that’s going on, good and bad. They ask such great questions, and some have even gone as far as doing their own research and sending me some information that I may like or they think may help. I appreciate all of that so much. But sometimes a computer screen is where I want to vent. So between this post, hugs from DH, and keeping in touch with "The Big Guy" today . . I know tomorrow will be a better day.

Hope and tears,

Lindsay

 

Results.

                Well, we had 2 embryos transferred back in February.  And it was the longest waiting game ever.  I POAS a lot earlier than the actual Beta (Blood Pregnancy Test) Test that my RE schedules for me, which can be a good thing and a very bad thing at the same time.  A test line can be very faint, which may lead you to believe that you are pregnant and the hormone just isn’t strong enough, you may receive a false negative which may leave you feeling disappointed, even though it was just too early.  A faint line also may mean a chemical pregnancy or an ectopic pregnancy.  So I believe that the reason doctors don’t suggest POAS before the Beta test is because it can cause unnecessary worry and stress that probably won’t help you as a hopeful mom.  Well . . needless to say, I COMPLETELY ignore that advice and POAS as soon as I think I can.  This time it happened to be at around 5dp5dt (5 days post 5 day transfer).  And I got the slightest faintest line.  I happened to POAS at approx. 3:00 in the morning and proceeded to wake hubby pants up and ask him if he could see the line . . Just to make sure I wasn’t seeing things, or going crazy.  Well, hubby saw the VERY faint line.  So at this point, your levels are supposed to double every 48 hours (approximately), so the hope is that the second line will continue to get darker and darker until the second line is just as dark as the test line.  I decided I would check every 24 hours (or 12, what’s the difference?).  So I POAS about every 12 hours or so for the next 8 days, and you won’t believe it!!  The line got progressively darker with EVERY pee.  We were ecstatic!  We were cautiously optimistic.  We still had to wait for the first blood test so that we could find out that our numbers were at a healthy level. 

This was our progression

This was the morning of our 1st Beta test =)

                We went in for Beta test #1, and they were expecting a beta level of approximately 50.  My number was 45.  The second test done about 4 days later should have been anywhere from 160-200.  My number was a 180.  At this point we were shocked.  Our numbers are doing what they are ACTUALLY supposed to be doing.. So, although early, we decided we could go ahead and tell our immediate family.  My youngest sister was the first to find out that yes, we are pregnant, but we still need to remain cautiously optimistic.  Then our parents and other siblings were to follow.  But those were the only people at this time we thought it would be appropriate to share the news with, due to the high risk we were still at.  The next Beta test was approx. 4.5 days later, and our number should have been anywhere from 700-1100.  My number was an 1190!  We couldn’t believe it.  Our RE said that we are almost out of the woods.  We had another week to see the heartbeat, and at that point I would graduate from my RE and be a regular pregnant lady being seen by an OB.  We were thrilled.  I had so much fun telling my family.  It was really exciting to share our moment with them.  It was also awesome having that secret between DH and I for a little bit.  Just us.  <3

                Well that night after our final Beta Test, I stayed at my cousin’s house.  I unfortunately realized that there was quite a bit of blood that “had occurred” right before I was going to bed.  (around midnight)  I called my cousin into the room and asked what she thought I should do.  (I’ve never had this happen, and she has 3 little ones, and figured she would know what was best to do)  I called the on-call doctor and was informed that this is actually quite common for women in their first trimester.  I informed her that it was quite a lot, and it was definitely NOT just some spotting.  She told me that some women have a full fledged AF during their first trimester.  She advised me to relax as much as I could, and to keep my feet up until the bleeding has subsided.  I did just that, and fortunately the bleeding stopped the next morning, and just continued as brown spotting Saturday and a tiny slight amount of spotting Sunday/Monday.

That Monday I called my RE and asked if I could come in for an extra Beta test and possibly an U/S to check out everything that was going on.  They agreed upon a Beta Test, but said they weren’t sure that an U/S would help anything because a heartbeat would possibly still not be able to be heard.  I politely asked a few more times.  They agreed.  (Thank God)  They checked my cervix first, and the doctor said it was closed, which is a really good thing!  She said there was no blood found in there, which means it has completely subsided.  I did not have a full bladder so the U/S was not much help.  BUT . . we saw what she thought looked like a gestational sac.  She said she couldn’t confirm but the cervix being closed is a good thing, and the results from the Beta test that I would get that afternoon will give us the definite answer.  It was a long 5 hours to wait!

My RE called, and I could tell by her voice IMMEDIATELY that something was not right.  I knew before she said anything with any factual evidence stating what the results were, that this was not good news that I was going to be receiving.  To have DH standing by me and waiting to see my reaction, and not knowing how I would actually react if those dreaded words, that I think I am about to hear, ACTUALLY come out of the RE’s mouth was just so much for me to handle all at once.  She was not the RE that took my call on Friday night at Midnight, which was one of the other 2 RE’s in the practice.  She was not the RE that took my U/S and cervix exam that morning, which was the 3^rd RE in that practice.  This was our RE we have been working with closely for the past 8 months or so.  She decided to review what had happened over the weekend, and asked me a few questions first.  I don’t remember how I answered I was just a blur of anxiety at that point.  She then informed me that my levels had dropped substantially down to 215, which means that I had miscarried.  UGH.  We couldn’t believe it.  I was in shock when I first hung up.  We went from the highest of highs that I have ever experienced, to the lowest of lows in minutes.  I don’t remember the minute or two after hanging up with the doctor. I do remember staring into space and not allowing DH to hug me at first, and chugging an entire bottle of water...  Then I broke down in hubby’s arms. 

The last week has been a grieving process unlike anything I have ever experienced.  It is all a part of the healing process as well.  

We booked an appointment for a consult for round #3.  I think I am going to take a little time off.  I think I am going to take some ME time, but we want a plan and a timeline.  This hasn’t been easy, but someday I hope to look back and say, “it was SO worth it.”  That’s what is keeping me going . . a bunch of Hope and faith.  This is quite a long and emotional post, so I will be back in the next few days to finish up with the story, and let you know what is going on with round #3.

Thank you all for following along on this journey that we are on, and I am so sorry that I didn’t have some exciting news to share with you all.

                                                                -Lindsay

P.S. - if you don't know what any of my abbreviations mean, you can always look it up on My Abbreviation Index.

Abbreviations

So, I use abbreviations in almost all of my posts.  If you are familiar with reading infertility blogs, you probably know most of them.  If you are not familiar with infertility blogs then this will be a very useful tool for ya!

FET – Frozen Embryo Transfer  - That is a cycle which involves your embryos that were left over from a fresh IVF cycle, and frozen for future transfers.

AF – Aunt Flow – Your period

BFN – Big Fat Negative – Negative Pregnancy Test

BFP – Big Fat Positive – Positive Pregnancy Test

DH – Darling Hubby

DD – Darling Daughter

DS – Darling Son

HPT – Home Pregnancy Test

IVF – In Vitro Fertilization

POAS – Pee on a stick

PT – Pregnancy Test

RE – Reproductive Endocrinologist – A doctor that specializes in Infertility

TTC – Trying to conceive

2ww – 2 week wait

5dp5dt – 5 days post 5 day transfer.  This indicates how many days you are since the transfer.  There are usually 5 day transfers and 3 day transfers.  I have done all 5 day.

I am sure there are others that I have used that I haven’t put in here . . so I will edit this as the blog continues to ensure that I include them all over time.

                                                                                                Praying for Baby Dust,

                                                                                                                Lindsay